Boys do cry, so do men!

When it comes to mental health, women tend to be more vocal than men.   Maybe because of the expectations of masculinity.  Men are expected to be the stronger gender, physically and mentally.  We have grown up with our father as the superman or superhero of our family.  He can fix everything and he is so strong that they cannot be seen as weak.  There was also one stage in my life that i thought my father was invincible that he does not even get sick or get old.  That is what I thought.  That is what men show the world.  Men tend to keep their problems on their own.  But keeping these problems has a dangerous effect to the mental health.  

We have grown up with our father as the superman or superhero of our family.

Men can cry too like boys or women do.  It is okay to be vulnerable and show the world how he feels.  It does not make less of a "man" should he show his true feelings.  A true man is not afraid to show and not hide his how he really feels .  A true man can take care of his mental health.  

Here are ways to take care of your mental health.

1. One true and loyal friend.  Like us women, men should have someone to confide to. Like a close friend or a best friend.  To verbalize somehow can make your feelings lighter.

2. Two kinds of names.  Create a name for your fears and create a name for your tears. Practically talking to your sadness by saying "begone, (name of fears) and let (name of tears) flow and go away".  It is a made up practice which is effective after crying out loud, then it is easier to let go.  Try it.

3. Three minutes of breathing exercises. Three minutes of inhale and exhale every day can make a big difference.  Just inhale deeply and exhale all the negative thoughts. 

4. Four people that you have not been in touch with.  Try messaging via social media or snail mail four people you have not seen or talk to for awhile.  Reconnect with old friends, better yet go out with them.

5. Five minutes of journaling a day.  If you do not want to talk, then write it.  Journaling can help release what is in your mind and heart.  

These are just five to try.  There are a lot more.  Do not be afraid to explore.  Just go and be vulnerable.  It is okay to be sad.  It is okay to cry.

Today is 10 October 2022 and we are celebrating World Mental Health Day! 

It is okay to be vulnerable, it is okay to cry..  Boys do cry and so do men.  

Happy world mental health day!